Creative Courage

As hard as it is to admit it, I’ve been stuck.  Several years ago, I lost my “virtual” voice.  My writing, blog posts and social media pages came to a halt.  I found myself in the middle of an unpredictable storm.  At times it was hard to walk through it.  Eventually the storm passed and the skies cleared.  Emotionally, it felt like my foundation had been cracked.  I needed to rebuild.

Since then, a part of me has been caught in a cycle of overwhelming fear when it comes to writing.  I have allowed the fear to hold me back. The ideas and words have continued to come to me every day.  This is nothing new.  Some people feel an urge to exercise, shop, eat, paint, dance, etc…  I feel the urge to write.  Then morning turns to night and nothing is released. Oh how I’ve longed to pick up the pen or type on my keyboard once again. 

As far back as I can remember, I have been creative.  Writing has been my passion. When I was a teenager, writing was my form of therapy for quite some time.  Before I was able to speak my truth, I wrote my truth.  It felt so freeing.  It filled my spirit and gave me purpose.

Through this experience, I’ve learned that my creativity and “inner-writer” never left me.  Somehow, the fear crept in and kept us apart.  It deflated my courage, sense of security and self-worth.  My inner-writer has been patiently waiting to reunite.  My creativity was not as patient and took another route.

When the words were unable to find a way out, my creativity connected me with Coloring.  About a year ago, I bought a couple Meditation Coloring Books as a different way to get back into meditation.  I loved it!  I ordered dozens of coloring books, packs of markers, gel pens, and when the creativity was really flowing, Prismacolor pencils.  Coloring gave me a chance to put the pen to the paper again and create.  What a beautiful process it has been.

I have felt a shift from within.  I started working with a Life & Business Coach a few weeks ago.  It reinforced what a powerful process coaching can be when I’m ready to change.  One of the “ah-ha” moments came when my Coach helped me see how much my creativity was connected to my authentic-self.  By tapping back into my creativity through coloring, I reconnected to a place within where my inner-writer was waiting.  It was time to reunite.

I took a deep breath and asked my Higher Power to take the fear away.  I felt love in my heart.  I let go of the false beliefs.  I felt the courage and inspiration come back to me.  I released the negative thoughts and doubts.  I gave myself permission to live in my truth.  I embraced my creativity.  And I wrote this blog post!

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Remind yourself that it’s okay not to be perfect

30873_398430362186_242742832186_4726216_3049295_nSo many of us strive for perfection.  The bar can be raised quite high.  Often, we are the ones setting the standards.  It’s important to be reminded that it’s okay not to be perfect.  While we’re at it, here are a few more reminders:

  • You can start your day over at any time.
  • The answers are within.  Listen.
  • Life is a series of choices.  The “wrong” ones become lessons.
  • If you don’t learn from lessons, you will get another chance.
  • Give yourself a break.
  • You are loved.
  • You are worthy.
  • You are beautiful.
  • You matter.
  • There is so much to be grateful for in your life.
  • At this moment, all is well.
  • You are making a difference in the world.
  • Thoughts become things.  Focus on the good ones.
  • Limit time with friends who are energy vampires
  • Speak your truth.
  • You are perfectly imperfect.

To Thine Own Self Be True

It is so important to stay true to yourself in all relationships.  Several months ago, I discovered this powerful post called Being Your TRUE Self in Relationships written by Gwen Randall-Young that focuses on this topic.  I’d like to share it with you.

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Being Your TRUE Self in Relationships by Gwen Randall-Young

“This above all,–to thine own self be true; and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” ~ William Shakespeare

Are you in a relationship with a spouse or a friend where you feel you cannot express your true thoughts? Do you find yourself censoring your views because you are afraid the other will become upset or it will create a problem? Do you feel at times like you are walking on eggshells?

This is not a healthy situation because in this kind of relationship you cannot be, or express your true self. You have to talk and behave in ways that will be acceptable to the other. This can create distance in the relationship, and even resentment.

You may end up shutting down important parts of yourself, and this can lead to unhappiness or even depression. Alternatively, you may have others in your life with whom you can be yourself, and then your life becomes fragmented. It is like you are one person with those with whom you can be your true self, and another person for those you must not annoy.

Honesty is such an important part of intimate relationships, and if we cannot be honest, we cannot have true intimacy. The relationship itself becomes dishonest, because we are pretending to be someone different than who we really are.

If revealing who we really are will result in rejection from the other, then it is not really us they think they love, but rather the idea of who they think we are. Both parties collude in keeping this deception going.

We all deserve to be loved and accepted for who we are. If you are dancing to the beat of someone else’s drum, it may be time to stop, and take some time to decide just who it is you are, and how you want to be with that. You may decide that life is too short, and individuality to important to have to pretend.

Love or Fear?

“Non-resistance, non-judgement and non-attachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.” ~Echart Tolle

What a powerful quote! When I first read this in A New Earth, I had to put the book down because it really struck me.  It has been said that we either come from a place of fear or love. When I come from a place of fear, I resist, judge and attach. It is so limiting and dark. Coming from a place of love allows me to open up my heart and see the unlimited possibilities all around. This is where the shift to awareness occurs and creation begins.

Are you coming from a place of love or fear?

 

Focus on the Positive Path

Positive Path

We all have a choice on what to focus our time, thoughts and energy on. The same skills used to create limiting beliefs can be used to create empowering beliefs.  The same energy used to make excuses can instead be used to take action. Choices are made in every moment, in every word and in every action.  Those choices are driven by what you focus on.  Focusing on the negative tends to bring us down, depletes energy and taints our outlook and attitude.  It is not such a healthy choice.  Focusing on the positive lifts our vibrational energy and makes us feel better, more motivated and benefits all areas of our lives.   I’ve had clients ask me about ways they can keep a positive focus. There are hundreds of ways.  I challenge you to discover which ones work best for you. Below are a few ways to help you focus on the positive path:

  • Take a moment to write a gratitude list.
  • Call a friend/relative and let them know how much they mean to you
  • Give someone a heart felt compliment.
  • Make eye contact and smile at all of the people you encounter today.
  • Turn off the TV, cell phone and computer and spend quality time with your family and/or pets
  • Pay the parking meter for a stranger. (Pay it forward!)
  • Acknowledge someone of service (cashier, waitress, customer service rep, teacher, fireman, mailman, etc…) Let them know they are appreciated.
  • Buy yourself or someone else some flowers.
  • Recycle and give back to Mother Earth.
  • Live each day to the fullest.