Whether you are aware of it or not, we all have self-talk. You know that little voice inside your head that builds you up or tears you down? I don’t even think that I noticed it until my early 20s. The self-talk voice had been with me my entire life, but I never realized it was even there. So when I discovered it, I was quite upset about all of the negativity that came with it. I had these negative self-talk tapes playing over and over in my mind. The scariest part was that I had no idea how to stop the tape. So I started to do some work. It didn’t happen over night, but eventually I learned how to allow the negative voice to say what it says and not pay it any attention.
I try to listen to the positive self-talk these days. The negative self-talk has no value and is extremely draining. Fear is what fuels the fire which powers the intensity of the negative self-talk flame. You don’t have to give power to that fear! Instead, try to focus on and accept the positive self-talk. It might feel awkward at first, but it will get easier. The more you focus on the positive, the more positivity you will create in your life. It has been said that your thoughts become things. I believe we manifest the ones that we hold onto and give the most power to. So give your power to the positive ones.
Are you focusing on positive or negative self-talk?
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three R’s: Respect for self, Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
19. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.
20. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
We all have a choice on what to focus our time, thoughts and energy on. The same skills used to create limiting beliefs can be used to create empowering beliefs. The same energy used to make excuses can instead be used to take action. Choices are made in every moment, in every word and in every action. Those choices are driven by what you focus on. Focusing on the negative tends to bring us down, depletes energy and taints our outlook and attitude. It is not such a healthy choice. Focusing on the positive lifts our vibrational energy and makes us feel better, more motivated and benefits all areas of our lives. I’ve had clients ask me about ways they can keep a positive focus. There are hundreds of ways. I challenge you to discover which ones work best for you. Below are a few ways to help you focus on the positive path:
- Take a moment to write a gratitude list.
- Call a friend/relative and let them know how much they mean to you
- Give someone a heart felt compliment.
- Make eye contact and smile at all of the people you encounter today.
- Turn off the TV, cell phone and computer and spend quality time with your family and/or pets
- Pay the parking meter for a stranger. (Pay it forward!)
- Acknowledge someone of service (cashier, waitress, customer service rep, teacher, fireman, mailman, etc…) Let them know they are appreciated.
- Buy yourself or someone else some flowers.
- Recycle and give back to Mother Earth.
- Live each day to the fullest.
Affirmations are mantras people use to impress the subconscious with a repetitive thought that can motivate, inspire and give the confidence needed to accomplish goals. When affirmations are practiced on a regular basis, they can be extremely powerful. They have helped to change people’s thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. I hope you enjoy these affirmations randomly selected from “The Don’t Sweat Affirmations” by Richard Carlson. Pick one that resonates with you and try to repeat it several times in the morning, night or throughout the entire day.
Problems as Opportunities:
When I feel that it’s all too much to handle, I lighten up and remind myself that I don’t have to be perfect.
I am flexible and accept changes in my plans with grace.
I have everything I need right now.
Money is only one of the currencies of life.
I improve the quality of my life with every positive thought.
I am grateful for every step on my life path that has led me to the deeper wisdom and understanding I enjoy today.
What are some of your favorite affirmations? Please post in the comments section.