7 Slow Down Strategies

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Do you find yourself feeling a bit overwhelmed? Is your schedule overloaded? Do you wonder where the energy will come from to get it all done?  You’re not alone. Taking time to slow down is a popular topic that comes up with some of my clients. After working together, many of them discover that we all need to internally slow down in our minds, slow down in our schedules and slow down in our activity.

It is usually our resistance to slowing down that causes the anxiety, fear and overwhelming feelings. When you think about slowing down, what comes up for you?  Some people have a fear that they won’t get everything done.  Others fear they will miss out on something. It is important to take a look at what slowing down really means to you. This might help to shift your perspective.  (Even the Energizer Bunny needs to change batteries at some point!) By slowing down, most of us end up feeling more energized, less stressed and a little lighter.  Doesn’t that sound nice? The good news is that it is totally possible. Here are 7 slow down strategies you might find helpful:

  • Breath. By consciously taking loooong, slooow, deeeeep breaths we can begin to slow down the heart rate and our racing thoughts as well. Control over our breathing is something that is always available to us, no matter what the circumstances might be.
  • Recognize limitations. Be gentle with yourself. Something has to give and sometimes it’s your very own expectations that apply the pressure to keep going and not slowing down.
  • Schedule time to relax. Block time on your busy calendar for YOU.  By planning a date and time on your calendar, you are making a commitment to take care of yourself.  Be sure to keep the date! Do something relaxing during your time like taking a bubble bath, getting a massage, reading, meditating or listening to soothing music.
  • Make a list. Do a brain dump and write down all of the things you have on your mind.  There’s no need to worry about writing out sentences, correcting spelling or punctuation.  Just write it out.  This will release the mental clutter and your thoughts will slow down.
  • Avoid too much caffeine. The extra energy you get from the morning cup of java can also increase anxiety.  Try ordering a decaf coffee in the afternoon or evening.  Cutting back on the energy drinks will help as well.
  • Connect with Nature.  Disconnect from the electronics and spend some time with nature.  Take a walk in a park.  Make time for a hike.  Sit outside and observe Mother Nature. What kind of trees and flowers do you see.  What the birds, squirrels and other creatures in their natural habitats.  Connecting with nature will bring a calmness to you.  In turn, it will allow you to let go of the stress and slow down.
  • Remain grateful. We all have so many blessings to be grateful for in our lives.  The universe is taking care of us all the time.  Focusing on gratitude will help you to internally slow down and reconnect with your spirit.

It is important to give yourself permission to slow down. I challenge you to pick a few slow down strategies from the above list to practice on a regular basis. There are many other ways to slow down, so feel free to do whatever works best for you.  The goal is to slow down. After you start slowing down, make sure you recognize the positive difference it makes in your life.

Which slow down strategies will you focus on today?

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86,400 Seconds

Every second is a chance

Imagine there is a bank account that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day.  Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course?  Each of us has such a bank. It’s name is TIME.

Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds.  Every night it writes off as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to a good purpose.  It carries over no balance. It allows no over draft.

Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day.  If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours. There is no drawing against “tomorrow.”

You must live in the present on today’s deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness and success!  ~ Excerpt from Marc Levy’s “If Only It Were True!”

What a “timely” reminder to value each second of each day.  Every second along with every breath is a miracle.  Life is too short.  Don’t wait to let the important people in your life know how much you love and appreciate them.  Spend more time with your friends and family.

Don’t delay doing things that are in reach today.  Why wait? Take action and make a plan to reach your goals and follow your dreams.  The hands of time are turning.

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Remind yourself that it’s okay not to be perfect

30873_398430362186_242742832186_4726216_3049295_nSo many of us strive for perfection.  The bar can be raised quite high.  Often, we are the ones setting the standards.  It’s important to be reminded that it’s okay not to be perfect.  While we’re at it, here are a few more reminders:

  • You can start your day over at any time.
  • The answers are within.  Listen.
  • Life is a series of choices.  The “wrong” ones become lessons.
  • If you don’t learn from lessons, you will get another chance.
  • Give yourself a break.
  • You are loved.
  • You are worthy.
  • You are beautiful.
  • You matter.
  • There is so much to be grateful for in your life.
  • At this moment, all is well.
  • You are making a difference in the world.
  • Thoughts become things.  Focus on the good ones.
  • Limit time with friends who are energy vampires
  • Speak your truth.
  • You are perfectly imperfect.

Back to School: Discover, Learn and Grow

Every other advertisement on the TV, radio, internet and more seems to be promoting all of the back to school items.  The media bombardment has begun! It has been years since I graduated from college.  Yet I can still remember switching my mental gears from “summer” to “back to school.”  It was a time to prepare, organize and focus for the new school year ahead.  There were new classes to experience, new people to meet and new opportunities to discover, learn and grow from.   Those of us that are done with the back to school days can use this time to reflect upon the things that we need and want to go back to.  Wondering what I mean? Below are some examples:

Back to Goals: How are those New Year’s resolutions coming along? Remember those? One of my resolutions was to get back into an exercise routine.  So like the rest of America, I went back to the gym once the new year hit.  It was going great for a couple months. Then it stopped.   Hmmmm…As I write this, I am committing to myself to go back to my goal of exercising on a regular basis. I will make it a reality starting this week!  What goals would you like to get back to?

Back to Dreams: Anything is possible.  We all had childhood dreams of what we wanted to be and where we wanted to go in life. What were some of your dreams?  Have you followed any of them? When I was younger, I dreamed about being able to fly and have superhero powers.  A couple years ago, I went skydiving.  It was amazing! I’m still working on the superhero powers and will keep you posted. My point is that it is never too late to make some of those dreams come true.

Back to your Authentic Self: Do you look in the mirror and not recognize the person you have become?  Is your true self hidden behind layers, walls and masks you have used over the years to fit in and feel accepted?  Now might be a good time to go back to your true authentic self.

All of these thoughts started from the back to school commercials.  I wonder what will happen when the Thanksgiving commercials start (wink, wink.)

Surrender

Don’t be attached to the outcome.
Continue with your efforts, and know that they are the right things for you to do at the moment, but surrender any attachment you have as to the outcome.
It’s the attachment to outcome, to things being a certain way, that brings us pain.
Peace comes with letting go, surrendering and acceptance.
It also makes us more open to learning from our experience, instead of resisting it.
~Michele J. Johnson

Is it the Problem or Perspective?

Author: Hiram Oconnor

More often than I care to admit, I bump into a problem that shakes the very core of my being and challenges the heart of my belief system. At such times, I feel the world closing in around me and a tendency toward desperation begins to raise its ugly head. My first impulse is to fight back, to attack the attacker, to react by either running from or toward the problem.

But I do not follow my first impulse any longer. I now stand back and look at the problem for a while. I observe it from different points of view, all the while realizing that I am not the problem but that the problem is just an indication of a small adjustment I have to make in my thinking.

No problem is bigger and more powerful than we are. We are all children of the Infinite. The Universe is biased on our side. We have within us untapped strength and wisdom to deal with all challenges that come our way.

All problems have within them the seeds of their solution. We must learn to listen to the Silence, to hear the instructions from within and to follow the “still small voice.” Life whispers to us all the time. It tells us to go this way or that, to take this road or the other. When we are frightened by what appears to be major problems, we block the “still, small voice” from our consciousness and only hear the howling winds and the thunder of the storm.

Find a quiet spot in the middle of the turbulence. Go to a quiet place within your soul and stay there for a short while. Do not rant and rave at the problem. Just go to this spot and let your fears be calmed, even for a moment. Don’t listen to the call of the problem but, rather, listen for a few seconds to the song of your soul.

I often say that it’s not what’s happening around you that causes anxiety, but what you think about what’s happening around you. Remove your thoughts from the problem for a short while. Don’t try NOT to think about the problem. That doesn’t work. Just remove your focus from the problem and think of something else. With a little practice, it becomes second nature.

Know that you’re bigger and stronger than anything that seems to annoy you. Look away, for a short while, from your problem and know that its solution is coming to you. Trust the force that created you and placed you in this part of the universe. Trust the process that has sustained you until now. Let go of the problem. Remember that it is not the problem that’s holding on to you, but that it’s you who are holding on to it.

Let it go. Don’t be like the man who was frantically rowing away from shore while his boat was firmly tied to the dock. If you want to get to the other side of the problem, you must cut the rope that’s holding you to the dock.

Soon you’ll begin to see signs that you’re on your way to success. Don’t stop what you’re doing and look around all day for such signs. You WILL see them. Ideas will come to you. You’ll have strange urges to take action by calling someone, writing a letter, sending an email. This is the “still, small voice” speaking to you.

Your problems are not more powerful than you are. You have the key to success. It is your birthright. No one can ever take it away from you. Be still and know who you are. Be calm and feel the countless tides of the centuries running through your mind. Know that you’re unique and that there is not another human being on this earth that has the combination of talents and abilities you have. You are as valid as the sun and the stars.

As Commander Spock would say…”Live long and prosper.”

Focus on the Positive Path

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We all have a choice on what to focus our time, thoughts and energy on. The same skills used to create limiting beliefs can be used to create empowering beliefs.  The same energy used to make excuses can instead be used to take action. Choices are made in every moment, in every word and in every action.  Those choices are driven by what you focus on.  Focusing on the negative tends to bring us down, depletes energy and taints our outlook and attitude.  It is not such a healthy choice.  Focusing on the positive lifts our vibrational energy and makes us feel better, more motivated and benefits all areas of our lives.   I’ve had clients ask me about ways they can keep a positive focus. There are hundreds of ways.  I challenge you to discover which ones work best for you. Below are a few ways to help you focus on the positive path:

  • Take a moment to write a gratitude list.
  • Call a friend/relative and let them know how much they mean to you
  • Give someone a heart felt compliment.
  • Make eye contact and smile at all of the people you encounter today.
  • Turn off the TV, cell phone and computer and spend quality time with your family and/or pets
  • Pay the parking meter for a stranger. (Pay it forward!)
  • Acknowledge someone of service (cashier, waitress, customer service rep, teacher, fireman, mailman, etc…) Let them know they are appreciated.
  • Buy yourself or someone else some flowers.
  • Recycle and give back to Mother Earth.
  • Live each day to the fullest.